Feeling girly - lets find out why
Lets discover what really makes you gurls feel girly. Just fill in the short poll below:
Poll link here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfl3VV5isrlcklvZ7YOSL24LWBfVPvTfKM4yKx6SMX0MbNnXQ/viewform?usp=sf_link
Another super fun poll with all sorts of dreamy girly experiences! It would be hard to say 'no' to any of them, but I've been thinking more about what the feminine experience is really like and how I can best connect with it. Ms. Kate, in some of your other posts you've spoken to the conflicted nature of the feminine experiences: "Being a woman is very complex, so many contradictions".
ReplyDeleteWhile I started exploring my sissy desires by being drawn to all that's exciting and thrilling about the feminine experience, and seeing all the ways women have fun, I've come to learn that I feel most 'girly' when in touch with the tension of the positive and more frustrating challenges of being a woman. While I still don't know them in depth myself, the moments I feel conflicted about feminine experiences are ironically the experiences that feel most enduring and forceful - more 'real', compared to the short thrill of various fantasies. As you've written "[women] make compromise after compromise".
I've tried to learn from these insights you've shared and incorporate a sense of the complex and contradictory, the fun and the frustrating, that goes into feeling like a woman when picking options from the poll.
Your own girly instagram account: of course, I'm excited by all the fun looks and the aesthetic of femininity. I've always been jealous of beautiful women who are able to display beautiful style everyday on their instagram account, thinking through different outfits, staying up with the latest trends, and developing the perfect expressions. Of course the joys of feeling pretty come with some frustrations: it also means at times being seen primarily for your outward appearance, having the constant expectation to always look your best, the pressure to come up with more engaging content, to feel your self worth rise and dip with the like counts on your latest cute post. It means being on display to the world, for the world to judge and critique. It means hours spent looking at clothes, learning new makeup techniques, and finding the perfect scene to showcase your great new content - and for all of this to be tied up in your identity without regard for your inner world.
Your own make up: the fun of trying out new makeup or learning a new look from your favorite girly youtuber is definitely an experience that immediately brings me in touch with feminine feelings. And there's nothing quite like seeing yourself looking feminine wearing the right accents on your face, eyes, and lips. Trying to learn the whole world of this, from skin care routines to different brands, makes me feel very girly. But women's experience with makeup is quite the mixed bag, and trying to work on makeup as part of a daily ritual has also introduced me to the drudgery of it - the way it can feel like such a chore, take up so much time and still sometimes not look right. And for women who feel the pressure to always look their best, to always be on point with the makeup, I can see how at times it might feel like a kind of prison, trapping you into a set of social expectations that you may not always feel like dealing with.
Your own yoga outfit and yoga mat: the beauty, peace, serenity, exquisite lines and movement of a woman practicing yoga are a source of such girly envy! A yoga outfit isn't just a super cute, sexy look, but also a commitment to a practice and outlook that feels very feminine and makes me feel super girly. While rewarding in many ways, I suspect that interest in yoga also reveals some more of the complexity of what it means to be a woman. Of course for many, yoga may reflect the pressure for women to work on their bodies and be seen primarily for them - it also is a reflection of the need for women to be more in touch with their physical form. More subtly, it also reveals a need for many women to find balance in their own emotions, to dedicate time to feel connected to what they're feeling, and to seek out peace among all the pressures and challenges women endure on a daily basis.