Reality Vs Fantasy - Idealised perception of feminity

Gurls often find themselves chasing an impossibly high and often twisted ideal of feminine beauty. From perfectly styled hair and flawless makeup to the most seductive lingerie and exaggerated curves, the fantasy of femininity can quickly become a hyper-real, unattainable image. Lets be clear we all suffer from this impossible ideal, every girl and gurl.

Why? Because culturally, we’ve all been programmed to idolize an ideal that doesn’t exist (well only in very small perfectly styled numbers). This "perfect woman" isn’t just an external standard—it’s a creation shaped by media, fantasy, and societal conditioning. For many gurls, this ideal becomes a cornerstone of their self-expression. Let’s be honest—how many of you have looked at porn stars or celebrities and thought, "That’s the girl I wish I could be?" And how many look at the girl serving your morning coffee or the sweet, but slightly overweight waitress and wish the same. Gurls it is time to get real with your femm persona. 

Let’s face it: real femininity is diverse, imperfect, and deeply personal. It’s not about living up to a fantasy but embracing who you are and finding your unique expression of beauty.

It’s time for gurls to get real. Let’s step back from the impossible standards and start celebrating achievable, authentic femininity. Look past the standard definitions of beauty and imagine yourself in the there heeled shoes. All women are stunning, powerful and so much more than they first appear.

To spark this conversation, here’s a simple survey to gauge how we all view feminine beauty. Click here to cast your vote, and let’s see where we all stand!

What does your version of realistic, beautiful femininity look like? Let’s redefine the narrative together.