You have a suspicion

Discovering that your husband might be a crossdresser and/or sissy gurl can bring a mix of emotions—curiosity, surprise, confusion, or even worry. It’s important to approach the situation thoughtfully and with care to maintain trust and understanding in your relationship. Here's a breakdown of what you might feel, what you can do to explore the situation, and how to handle it constructively.

How You Might Feel
Curiosity:
You may feel intrigued, wondering what motivates him and how this fits into his identity and your relationship.

Surprise or Confusion:
If this possibility never crossed your mind, it might challenge some of your assumptions about him or your relationship.

Concern or Worry:
You might worry about why he hasn’t told you, what this means for your marriage, or if he’s hiding other aspects of his life.

Empathy and Openness:
If you’re open-minded, you may feel a sense of wanting to understand him better and support him in this part of his identity.
 

What Should You Do?
Reflect on Your Feelings
Before taking action, consider how you feel about the possibility. Are you open to learning more, or do you feel hesitant? Identifying your feelings will help you approach the situation with clarity.

Look for Clues (Subtly)
If you want to confirm your suspicions before discussing them, you can look for subtle signs:

Unfamiliar Clothes: Check for feminine clothing, lingerie, or shoes in his size that seem out of place.

Makeup or Accessories: Look for makeup products, nail polish, or jewelry that he doesn’t wear around you.

Online Activity: If you’re comfortable doing so, observe his browsing history for related searches or activity on forums or social media.

Behavioral Cues: Notice if he shows an unusual interest in your clothes or makeup, or if he’s evasive about certain habits or time alone.

Create a Safe Space for Communication
If you feel ready, approach him with kindness and curiosity, rather than judgment or accusation. Try saying something like:“I’ve noticed a few things lately, and I wanted to talk to you about them. I want you to know this is a safe space, and I’m open to understanding more about you.”

Give him the opportunity to share in his own words. He might feel relieved to finally talk about something he’s kept private.

Test the Waters Playfully
If you’re not ready for a direct conversation, you could gently test his comfort level by:

Inviting His Input on Feminine Things: Ask his opinion on clothes or makeup you’re trying on and see how engaged he is.

Playful Dressing: Suggest a costume party or playful role reversal, where he might feel safer expressing himself.

If you are really feeling brave, suggest a weekend away where you take the lead and you might even surprise him by pegging him. You might enjoy it as much as he does!

Educate Yourself
Research crossdressing to understand what it means. It’s not always about gender identity; for many, it’s a form of self-expression, comfort, or stress relief.

What Not to Do
Avoid Accusations: Don’t approach him with anger or judgment, as this could shut down communication.

Don’t Invade Privacy Recklessly: Searching his belongings or devices without permission can damage trust.

Moving Forward
If your suspicions are confirmed:
Stay Open-Minded: Remember, crossdressing doesn’t change his love for you or his role in the relationship unless it’s part of a larger conversation about identity.

Discuss Boundaries: Talk openly about how you both feel and what works for your relationship.
Seek Support: If needed, consider therapy or joining support groups for partners of crossdressers to navigate your feelings.

Ultimately, navigating this situation requires patience, empathy, and communication. By approaching it with love and respect, you can strengthen your bond and potentially discover a new layer of intimacy in your relationship.

Trust my girls when I say you will find a way to love him and her and it will add so much more to your lives. Enjoy.