Ladies, It’s Time to Take Control

I’ve talked about this before, probably more than once, but it still shocks almost every single woman I share it with, most men are literally two or three simple steps away from being completely and utterly controlled. 

Yes, really. That close.

Here’s the truth no one likes to say out loud, most men have the emotional range of a teaspoon. Their desperate need to rut, to shove their dicks into anything warm and wet, overrides almost all logic and self-control. It’s pathetic, really, but oh so useful.

Keep a man on edge for just a day or two teasing, denying, whispering what he can’t have yet and he’s already halfway to being your little puppet. Keep him there for a week? He’ll lap up his own cum without question, just to please you, just to be allowed a single release. And that’s not even the limit.

But it starts with you. First and foremost take him in hand. Own it. Don’t ask, don’t explain, and for god’s sake, don’t wait for “consent” to express your power. You don’t need to sit down and draw up rules. Let him figure them out the hard way or suffer the delicious consequences.

You are in charge.
You don’t need permission to lead, to take what you want, to make your desires the center of the room. I’m honestly sick of women tiptoeing around their own needs, still stuck in some outdated narrative where the man’s pleasure is the goal and hers is an afterthought. Enough.

Stop apologizing. Stop waiting. Start taking.

Taking your man in hand is easier than you think.
Set the scene. Push his buttons. Test his limits. You’ll be amazed at what you can get away with when you lead with confidence and just a hint of wickedness. Trust me, by the end, he’ll be begging to be used, aching to be told what to do next, desperate for your approval.

Here’s how to start:

Step 1: Lay the Trap (The “Perfect” Girlfriend Phase)

Start by being the version of yourself he thinks he wants attentive, horny, available. Ask for sex every day for two weeks. Let him think he’s being spoiled. Stroke his ego. Praise his cock. Lie back, moan his name, act like you can’t get enough.

But underneath? You're taking notes. You’re observing his tells, his weaknesses. You’re laying a foundation. He’s falling into a pattern. He's thinking he’s in charge and that’s exactly what you want.

Begin to test the dynamic:

Whisper, “You’re not allowed to cum until I say.”

Wank him off during a movie, stop right before he finishes.

Slide a vibrator between your legs and say, “I don’t need your cock tonight.”

Don’t ask. Just do it.

 

Step 2: Flip the Script (Take Control Without Asking)

You’ve built trust. Now flip the dynamic. Stop initiating affection unless it’s teasing or for your pleasure. Make him beg for sex. Deny him. Laugh when he pouts.

This is the phase where the leash gets tight. His cock belongs to you now.

Your power moves:

Start locking him in chastity (a cage is optional, but fun).

Make him edge daily—no release.

Use phrases like:

“You don’t get to cum unless you earn it.”

“Your pleasure is mine to control.”

“I like you desperate.”

The dirtier and more confident you are, the more he will melt. His brain runs on dopamine and you’re now the only source.
 

Step 3: Train Him Like a Pet (Reward + Punishment)

By now he’s already compliant. But now we build obedience.

Use positive reinforcement:

Let him edge while worshipping your body.

Allow him a ruined orgasm as a treat.

Give him tasks (cleaning, massages, serving you) in exchange for touching himself.

Add punishment when he breaks rules:

Deny him for a week.

Force him to edge 10 times in a row.

Make him eat his cum—then smile and kiss him like it’s the hottest thing you’ve ever seen.

Training tips:

Never just let him cum. There must always be a reason.

Make your moods, your orgasms, and your desires the center of his universe.

Use a “points” system or commands. You can even name his cock if you’re feeling bratty.
 

 

Step 4: Psychological Control (Mindfuck Him Sweetly)

Now that his body’s yours, it’s time to take over his mind.

This is when he’s so obsessed, so hungry for your approval, that you start to play with his identity. Kinky mind games and deep femdom layering.

Tactics:

Ask him what it feels like to be owned.

Start calling him your “good boy” or “filthy little toy.”

Ask, “Would you still love me if I let other men fuck me while you watched?”

Make him tell you why he’s lucky to serve you.

Use humiliation—gently or brutally. Tailor it to him.

You are rewriting the story of his sexuality. And he’ll love every second of it.
 

Step 5: Full Ownership (No More Equal Playing Field)

You’re not “dating” now. You’re in charge.

He lives for your touch, your moans, your moods. You choose when (and if) he cums. You might go weeks without even touching his cock—and he’ll still crawl to your feet begging for permission to kiss your thighs.

Let yourself become the thing he obsesses over. Stay soft when you want. Be cruel when it turns you on. You’ve earned this.

Ways to express full control:

Make him ask for permission to touch himself—even to pee.

Deny him indefinitely. Let him cum only from your orgasm.

Have him journal every time he thinks about you sexually.

Include other kinks: foot worship, pegging, sissy play, domestic servitude—whatever you desire. 

Bonus: Dirty Talk Phrases That Break Him

“Look how hard you are just from my voice. Pathetic.”

“I’m going to use you until I’m done. Your pleasure doesn’t matter.”

“No touching tonight. You get to kneel and watch me cum.”

“You’ll eat it. All of it. Or I won’t let you touch me again.” 

Final Thoughts:
You don’t need to be cold. You don’t need to become a cartoon domme in leather boots (unless you want to). You just need to remember: You are allowed to lead. You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to be worshipped.

And trust me—he wants to be owned. He just doesn’t know it yet.